BDSM - Helpful information
In this article you will educate yourself about BDSM and in what way it can be used as stress relief for some.
Firstly, BDSM is short for for Bondage, Discipline and Sado Masochism. Additionally, it is short for Bondage, Dominance, Sadism and Masochism.
BDSM involves two or more people in several roles. Often, one person plays the dominant role while the other plays a submissive role. The dominating person administers pain to the submissive person by means of "torture", beatings, and whippings. Chiefly, the submissive person enjoys increasingly being in bondage, while the dominant person enjoys the experience of power. There is a consensual arrangement between the parties, and thus even though it would appear that the submissive person is being forced to take the pain, both parties are experiencing pleasure. Therefore, it is easy to see how this technique can certainly help relieve stress. BDSM is often associated with scenes in sex magazines where it's useful to create sexual tension.
You will find numerous types of BDSM, whereby the intensity of pain also may differ. In some kinds of BDSM, the activities involve mild pain or none at all, while others involve serious pain. In cases where the submissive person is experiencing intense pain, they are the ones which have some degree of control over the amount of pain he or she will take. It is not as if the person is being forced to take the pain.
While intense kinds of BDSM involve actual pain, less severe forms involve bondage, light caning, spanking, verbal abuse, or humiliation. Whatever forms of activities are involved in BDSM, the role-play has to be safe, consensual and controlled.
Many people do not understand the BDSM community. The SM part of the acronym BDSM (Sadism and Masochism) describes activities that are regarded as unpleasant by many people. Obviously, men and women who don't grasp what BDSM means, can be quick to associate BDSM participants as freaks and perverts, since the activities and the names imply abuse and violence. In addition to the obvious Bondage and Discipline part of it, which we will come to later. Steps have been taken to give a more positive meaning to BDSM and this is how the acronym was arrived at.
Many more people are doing BDSM today than before. The interesting truth is that you may already be involving BDSM as part of your sex life without knowing it. Unlike back in the day, when BDSM was viewed negatively, many people are starting to realise the positive aspects of this lifestyle. It is easy to attach evil or dark connotations to BDSM when you first encounter the practice on movies, videos or magazines, but as you learn that it is not what it seems to be, you will start to view it more positively.
BDSM has become cleverly included in commercials globally. You may have seen commercials where Jeans manufacturers manipulate a form of BDSM in their adverts. Even music may be based on BDSM, such as Justin Timberlake "Sexy Back", and "Master and Servant" Depeche Mode in addition to numerous others. BDSM crops up in every day life if you look for it.
As BDSM is becoming a lot more popular, companies are offering new products in this niche. The likes of Ann Summers now sell lots of BDSM equipment and clothes. Products are available for both the dominant and submissive role-plays. If you undertake some window-shopping in one of these brilliant shops, you will discover an assortment of whips, canes, leather clothing, guide books, and many other items. Additionally, you will find novelty products like blindfolds, handcuffs, and light chains. The shops are stocked to the brim during Christmas, and Valentines.
BDSM has been practised for quite some time but the most prominent advocate of BDSM lived in the 18th century. Should you study the history of BDSM, you will know that nothing has changed really except the name and popularity of this practice. Nobody knows how BDSM started. The French author, Marquis De Sade was known to be a passionate sexual sadist. Marquis has written many books about BDSM, although not much is well know about his acts. The most crucial element omitted from Marquis Publications is the need for consent in all BDSM activities. Consent is necessary from the submissive role players to get familiar with the act. Modern BDSM emphasizes the need for consent from both parties to obtain pleasure from one another through bondage or dominance.
Therefore, it is no coincidence that the word Sadist is derived from the name of the French author, Sade. Masochism is another term that is part of the BDSM acronym. This term is credited to the author of Venus In Furs, Sacher-Masoch.
An important feature of BDSM is role-playing. It has been described how people obtain pleasure from Dominance and Submission. People will also obtain pleasure from bondage. Numerous factors come into play during role-playing. A participant will experience of all kinds of physical sensations which might be triggered by erotic stimuli, emotions and psychological aspects which could bring stress relief. The Sadism Masochism section of BDSM (SM) involves the dominatrix playing as the Sadist, administering pain and humiliation, while the Submissive plays the Masochist, who receives the pain and humiliation.
BDSM activities where people role play are often held at private clubs or at fetish clubs like the Torture Garden Fetish Club in London. Groups of people can engage in these activities. Many people experience a sense of freedom or liberty while they are in bondage. This freedom relates to their day to day life, and their ability to take responsibilities and make decisions. You will find BDSMscenes that involve people who are powerful businessmen in real life, playing the role of a submissive. Although it is only for a short time, they learn something about being in a position of weakness. They will thus be able to relate better to their employees.
Imagine yourself being the Dominatrix in this role-play. In the real world, a businessman who runs a company and is totally anxious, and stressed, being the dominant person at the office may result in him being a submissive in a BDSM scene since the dominant one takes away the power which he has in real life. She becomes the boss, and treats him like an underdog (possibly similar to how he treats his employees). She takes on the power, so he submits his manhood, his dominant personality to her as he does not have to take responsibility for anything in the scene and the roles are reversed. You can be dominant in other areas of your business apart from with your employees. As an example, you can be dominant over your competitors.
Some people are just not capable of being dominant role in real life, and this may lead to stress if you are in a position that requires you to be dominant. When you are not dominant, you will lose control and power, and this may translate into low self-esteem and financial loss for your business.